Daisy Toye Admits Declining Erika Hammond Party Invite
Real Housewives of New York City stars Daisy Toye and Erika Hammond are feuding over a birthday party invitation aired on Bravo.
Updated on Nov. 12, 2026 in Home Organization
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Daisy Toye admitted that Erika Hammond invited her to a birthday party during a phone call, and that she turned the invitation down. Hammond responded by reposting a TikTok calling the admission a masterclass in gaslighting and said Toye did not invite her to Toye's gala.
Why it matters
The exchange shows how a disagreement over a party invitation has escalated into a public dispute between cast members of a long-running reality series. Because the feud played out across a televised episode and social media, it reached viewers well beyond the people involved.
The feud was aired on RHONY: After Show on November 10, 2026, and on the November 11 episode of the season 16 broadcast. Hammond's invitation was made by phone rather than text, which she said was why she did not send it in writing.
The players
Daisy Toye
Daisy Toye is a cast member of The Real Housewives of New York City, the Bravo reality series.
Erika Hammond
Erika Hammond is a cast member of The Real Housewives of New York City who has been involved in several public feuds on the show.
Bravo
Bravo is the NBCUniversal cable network that broadcasts The Real Housewives of New York City.
The details
Erika Hammond invited Daisy Toye to her birthday party during a phone call, which Toye later acknowledged and said she declined. Hammond then reshared a TikTok post describing Toye's admission as a masterclass in gaslighting, and stated that Toye had not invited her to Toye's own gala.
Timeline
Days before Erika Hammond's birthday, Daisy Toye's birthday party took place and the two discussed it by phone.
On Erika Hammond's birthday, she invited Toye to her party during a phone call.
On November 10, 2026, RHONY: After Show aired the feud discussion.
On November 11, 2026, the Tuesday episode of RHONY aired the feud.
Roadmap
The exchange continues the Real Housewives pattern in which personal disputes are extended through aftershow segments and online reposts, a format Bravo has used across the franchise. It places this feud within a long-established approach to serialized cast conflict rather than a one-off confrontation.
For viewers who follow the series, the feud shapes which episodes and aftershow segments they choose to watch on Bravo. The disagreement also shows how a casual invitation made by phone can become a public dispute when it is discussed on television and social media.
The takeaway
Clear, direct communication about invitations, especially when plans are made by phone, can prevent misunderstandings from becoming public disputes. Keeping a written record of arrangements can help avoid conflicting accounts later.
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Source note: This article includes information reported by Reality Blurb.
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